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6 reasons not to judge and 6 ways to get around it

” “Judge not, that you be not judged.  For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you.” Matt 7:1

You may think you can condemn such people, but you are just as bad, and you have no excuse! When you say they are wicked and should be punished, you are condemning yourself, for you who judge others do these very same things. Romans 2:1

People often judge others by their actions and judge themselves by their intentionsPastor Tom Deuschle

Why you should not judge
1] You simply don’t have the right. We have all had our shortcomings no matter what great feat we have achieved. That means no matter how successful we get in the future, we need to always remember that we’ve made mistakes too and therefore cannot fault others on theirs.

2] It often, if not always, comes back to you. In Galatians 6:5-7 we read:

For we are each responsible for our own conduct.

 6 Those who are taught the word of God should provide for their teachers, sharing all good things with them.

 7 Don’t be misled—you cannot mock the justice of God. You will always harvest what you plant. That means both good things and bad things.

I love part “b” of Matt 7:1: and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you

3] It paints a poor portrait of who you are. This actually starts right in the moment! I have thought so many times about why I judged the person. When I look back not only do I realize the foolishness in my actions but the shame in thinking I’m better than they are, regardless of what they’ve done.

4] It’s about who you are on the inside. The more you do something, the more you become what you do. Run a lot and you’ll be a runner. Judge a lot… You have to think about the person you want to become, or better yet, the person you’re already becoming!

5] It shows you’re hiding something. Why do you think you’re better than anyone else? What insecurities are you trying to cover up? Often times, even when they do not see it, there’s always something they are up to that they are ashamed to let anybody else know about.

6] It makes you a hypocrite. Matt 7:3-5

And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.

Through and because of our own accomplishments are we then able to help someone else. Otherwise you are only fooling yourself. In a sense you will be trying to teach someone things you have not learned!

6 ways to obtain self-control
1]
Think before you speak and also before you act. The first step to doing this is by acknowledging that it is not easier said than done! Why invite the negative on your path towards the positive? You need not say it is hard, but rather, it is possible.

2] Love yourself more! I believe one of the reasons people judge is because they do not give enough credit to themselves, if any at all! People have not affirmed good things about them or they do not do it enough, and they therefore see bad things around them because they embrace it in themselves. Determine to always make an effort to be thankful for all the little things that happen and you accomplish in life.

3] Forgive yourself. This is essentially the first step towards loving yourself. Though you have done wrong, you can always move on. Only when you have forgiven yourself does it become easier to forgive someone else.

4] Take control by letting go. Normally when someone judges a person it will be because they are offended. Often times it is indirect offense. Taking the upper hand by saying, “NO!” to the urge to say or do something you will regret, brings you closer to harbouring the spiritual fruit of patience (Galatians 5:22-23). I love what Proverbs 17:28 says:

Even a fool is counted wise when he holds his peace; When he shuts his lips, he is considered perceptive

5] Treat others the same way you want them to treat you. That’s basically the Matt 7:12 rule. I have learned that good things happen to those who happen to see the good in everything. It is not about being selfish, doing good in order to gain good out of it, but rather being selfless, doing good for the sake of benefiting others which will in turn, benefit you more in the long run!

6] Always consider others as more important than yourself. Paul encourages us:

Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself.  Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.  If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important. Galatians 6:1-3

Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves.  Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. Philippians 2:3-4

Making things right with someone is always more important than being right.

Final word
The purpose of this post was to offer something to think about it. More like points of discussion in cell groups, amongst friends and so on. The idea would be to help each other practice one of the most difficult spiritual fruits: self-control.

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Wisdom in humility: defining real humility
6 key facts about wisdom found in the Proverbs

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13 thoughts on “6 reasons not to judge and 6 ways to get around it

  1. Yep yep I agree. Great post. Point 2 and 3 of “6 ways to obtain self-control” is something we all need to work on. Especially number 3. Self-condemnation is a form of us judging ourselves.

  2. Yes exactly. In fact, now that you mention it, don’t you think some times we judge ourselves so harshly that we end up bringing others down with us?

    • Judas Iscariot is a perfect example…he condemned himself emotionally and literally by committing suicide because he could not forgive himself for what he had done…and that is betray his friend, Jesus.

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