Here I’ll be analyzing whether or not how a relationship starts determines how it continues and/or whether or not it will end.
Does the first encounter determine everything?
All I’m saying here is, is it possible that where and how you meet decides the course of the direction of the relationship? You see there are some factors that need to be taken into consideration. Of course meeting in a coffee shop does not mean things are going to go terribly. The only thing that controls that is the personality of both parties.
With that in mind, let’s see how things build based on the first encounter. Some people have their shopping list for the right person for them. I will be, however, dealing with a different thing altogether, for discussion purposes:
1) Would you marry an acquaintance?
What if you just met and experienced love at first sight? You get so intimate so quick you get engaged within the week! On a practical level, even if someone was genuinely in love, rushing into marriage without knowing each other can only lead to high risk of problems that could have been avoided, had some time been taken to grow in knowledge of both parties. On the other hand, if time was indeed taken for development of the relationship then it’s smooth sailing. The only thing is that a lot of time together will be needed considering that neither party knows the other, either at all, or on a deep level.
2) Would you marry your childhood friend?
Some people find that completely unimaginable! I have never heard a story of anyone marrying their childhood friend. Just trying to picture it now: How did you meet? Actually we’ve known each other since we were kids! Please, if anyone can testify to that, do not hesitate to comment! Please tell your story.
Now some would say that it’s a great idea to marry someone you know very well. That’s true in the case of meeting them at a later stage in life, perhaps school. As for kindergarten, all I can say to that is that it might work in some cases and in others it won’t. I would probably go on to say that it can destroy a perfectly good relationship. As for that part, to a certain extent I can relate. Now I’m not concluding that that’s more likely the case. I’m just mentioning it as a possibility. The only conclusion to draw is the fact that it depends on both parties.
3) Would you marry your best friend?
Now I know MOST people would agree with this idea. There are probably more successful marriages that started off right here. There are probably more people who married their best friend than any other way. For sure this kind of person is extremely difficult to find because 1) it’s not so easy to cultivate a relationship up to this point with anyone (that is any boy/girl), which means 2) this kind of person actually takes time to find. My theory is that more often than not, this person is found in the most random of places, like the shops! Fortunately that’s not always the case. In fact many people have found this person in school and church! I’m just pointing how rare it is to grow a relationship to this point if the favoured person isn’t found in the social locations, that is school, work, church etc. Please comment if you’ve had a different experience and are either leading towards or are in a successful marriage.
In my next post, I’ll talk about marrying your high school/college friend, your workmate and your boss. If anyone has any ideas for more posts please mention them. Please can also send a link if you’ve posted anything related to this subject. Thanks.