John C Maxwell quoted Douglas Cardinal and said, “I’m not an answering machine, I’m a question machine. If we have have all the answers, how come we’re in such a mess?”
The one thing that is really bad in this life-I would even argue that it’s worse than not being able to find yourself-is doing things because everyone else is doing it. When was the last time that you succeeded at anything because everyone else was doing it?Another way to put this phrase is the same way Jesus did, “The blind leading the blind.” (Matt 15:13-14). In essence that’s exactly what happens when you don’t have a reason for doing something and you just follow along hoping something good is going to happen.
This reminds me of a time when I did something because my brother did the same thing (like go to a friend’s place and come back later in the day without announcing arrival time) and I thought it would at least get us both in trouble as opposed to just me. I would then be asked the common question, “If your brother jumped over a cliff, would you do the same?”
Here are a few guidelines to challenge popular thinking:
1) If everyone does the one (or same) thing and there’s no particular purpose, that gives you every reason Not to do it.
2) Popular thinking does not embrace change. Often times the old ways or the past ways are the best ways to do things. Avoid the danger of regress! Instead strive to make progress.
3) Find out what everyone else is doing and do the opposite!
If you ever find yourself not moving forward in life ask yourself two questions:
When was the last time I did something for the frist time?
Is there anything that I keep repeating without realizing it?