The problem with I.Q
A very long time ago, I believe it ranges around 9 or so years ago, I convinced myself that I was not smart. Everyone went crazy about each person’s I.Q. When I took the test I did not understand the result. A friend explained that it was the kind of score that proved that one had an average level of intelligence. This meant I was not smart but also not dumb. The challenge with this thought was that I believed that it was how every aspect of my entire life was. I measured it against everything I did. It was until out of boredom I saw Dr. Phil each day for about a week. Interesting enough when I saw a particular episode, if I can call it that, that I felt very comforted.
It featured a man who had challenges relating with his one year old child. You see, he would ask him to remain in his cot otherwise he would hurt himself badly. The boy never listened. After a few attempts, he decided on a different approach. He explained the scientific consequences, the danger of the laws of physics and the threat to his psychological development as a result of his seemingly intentional disobedience! It got me wondering how such a smart person was unable to relate well with a small child. On the show they discussed his background. He was an average scoring student who was mocked by his above average classmates. This was a constant, nonstop everyday thing. Might as well be a tradition. One day he determined in his heart that he would succeed them at an exponential rate. This is exactly what he achieved.
They listed a few different kinds of intelligences: Emotional intelligence, Quantitive intelligence and Qualitative intelligence. That confirmed something I was speculating regarding the reason why someone with such a high I.Q could not relate to his child.
This also reminded me of the scene in The Social Network where the main character eats out with his friend and he openly mocks her for not tackling her situation from a logical and mathematical point of view! All this made me feel better and after researching the types of intelligences, I found out that Howard Gardner had come up with different kinds of intelligences after noticing that people are a lot more complex than we think, and may be too much so to confine them to one kind of intelligence.
Why the craze about I.Q?
As I nearly finished the 12th grade I found out that there was a connection between I.Q tests or measurements and school. No one ever talked about them any other time or anywhere else. It was almost as if you could tell the kind of life a person was going to live based on their I.Q. Taking some long deep thoughts about this, it simply did not make sense. Why and how could one govern their life based on how smart they are? When I found out that those with enormously high I.Q’s had relatively to very low Interpersonal skills, I remembered my friends at school. Now being someone who was very good friends with people who had a decent balance between Logic Mathematical and Interpersonal Intelligence, I was smart enough to know that generalizing my discovery would be imbecilic, however, it would also not leave me too far off. In both instances I would be correct. In other words it may be safe to say that most people who have high cognitive skills have a reasonably low social skills and a small percentage have a high rate of cognitive and social skills. Bear in mind this discovery was a long time ago and it may have changed today.
What I.Q really does
I have learned that the main thing, if not the only thing, that I.Q does is measure your general ability to solve problems and understand concepts. Now being a slow learner, listening to a fast-talking lecturer was hard. My favourite part was dictation. Going back and rereading what I wrote down was helpful. I do believe that subvocalizing (reading “allowed” in your mind) caused me to try and understand what I was reading as I was reading it. Your I.Q includes measuring reasoning ability, problem-solving ability, ability to perceive relationships between things and ability to store and retrieve information. That last one what I had the biggest problem with. My subvocalizing did more damage than good so that I was basically left more confused about a subject after reading it. The few ways your I.Q is measured is by:
- spatial ability: the ability to visualize manipulation of shapes
- mathematical ability: the ability to solve problems and use logic
- language ability: This could include the ability to complete sentences or recognize words when letters have been rearranged or removed.
- memory ability: the ability to recall things presented either visually or aurally
My strongest point out of all these is the language ability. The limiting thing with I.Q tests is that they measure your ability to understand ideas and not the quantity of your knowledge, thus learning new information does not automatically increase your I.Q. Your score is therefore stable throughout your adult years. You can maintain it by solving puzzles and learning new skills but to increase your intelligence as a whole, you need to do more than just that. Let us take a look at what that might be.
The Types Of Intelligences
1. Naturalist Intelligence (“Nature Smart”). This is basically the human ability to discriminate among living things (plants, animals) as well as sensitivity to other features of the natural world (clouds, rock configurations). In essence conservationists, botanists, florists and I think zoologists fall under this.
2. Musical Intelligence (“Musical Smart”). This is the capacity to discern pitch, rhythm, timbre, and tone. This intelligence enables us to recognize, create, reproduce, and reflect on music, as demonstrated by composers, conductors, musicians, vocalist, and sensitive listeners.
I loved it when I learned about this because it meant that I did not have to worry about not being above average in every area of my life. I used to be a recording artist, but that was just for fun. Understanding the beat and the effect it had on the emotions played a big part in the way I wrote songs. My friend who is an audio engineer pays very close attention to the pace, tone, pitch, rhythm, flow and other components of any piece of music he listens to. He does this by nature and I believe anyone else with the level of musical knowledge he has or intelligence in general may do the same.
3. Logical-Mathematical Intelligence (Number/Reasoning Smart). This is the ability to calculate, quantify, consider propositions and hypotheses, and carry out complete mathematical operations. It enables us to perceive relationships and connections and to use abstract, symbolic thought; sequential reasoning skills; and inductive and deductive thinking patterns.
I have friends who are straight-A-students (well who doesn’t?) telling me that they have reasoning and problem solving skills but no math skills. That raised a huge eyebrow for me. I thought about that for a few days and I came to the conclusion that the more they claimed that the less true it was. Why? They would simply cease to fall under, “straight-A-student,” if that were the case. They not be exceptional at math but they have to be good enough to not only at least score an “A” but also formulate possibilities and consider variables, in certain situations, from a mathematical perspective. In other words think in a calculable manner.
4. Existential Intelligence.
Sensitivity and capacity to tackle deep questions about human existence, such as the meaning of life, why do we die, and how did we get here. I am not going to lie, I do not think I have met such a person in real life. I have attempted to answer the question of the meaning of life but not the point of reaching a confident conclusion, neither did I know such a type of intelligence existed.
5. Interpersonal Intelligence (People Smart”). This is the ability to understand and interact effectively with others. It involves effective verbal and nonverbal communication, the ability to note distinctions among others, sensitivity to the moods and temperaments of others, and the ability to entertain multiple perspectives. Teachers, social workers, actors, and politicians all exhibit interpersonal intelligence.
This intelligence is the one I first learned about. The only thing was that I could not appropriately name it. Social jobs can be quite hard to get but are very fulfilling for those who have this kind of intelligence. In primary school I recommended becoming a talk show host or doing their own show and often referenced Tyra Banks and Oprah Winfrey.
6. Bodily-Kinesthetic Intelligence (“Body Smart”). This is the capacity to manipulate objects and use a variety of physical skills. This intelligence also involves a sense of timing and the perfection of skills through mind–body union. Athletes, dancers, surgeons, and craftspeople exhibit well-developed bodily kinesthetic intelligence.
I am a runner and I thoroughly enjoy that. I have a fair amount of knowledge concerning that but not to the point where I can coach someone on a big scale. I know a lot, but I still have even more to learn.
7. Linguistic Intelligence (Word Smart). This is the ability to think in words and to use language to express and appreciate complex meanings. Linguistic intelligence allows us to understand the order and meaning of words and to apply meta-linguistic skills to reflect on our use of language. Linguistic intelligence is the most widely shared human competence and is evident in poets, novelists, journalists, and effective public speakers. Young adults with this kind of intelligence enjoy writing, reading, telling stories or doing crossword puzzles.
As I mentioned earlier that the language ability was my strongest in the four ways that I.Q is measured. Anyone who keeps a diary or journal extensively, along with everyone on WordPress, Tumblr, Blogger Technorati, and other blogging platforms fall under this, especially if they express themselves best in writing, which includes poems, stories and even letters and cards. I have often been told that I am good with words. Maybe because I say the right things at the right times. Who knows?
8. Intra-personal Intelligence (Self Smart”). This is the capacity to understand oneself and one’s thoughts and feelings, and to use such knowledge in planning and directing one’s life. Intra-personal intelligence involves not only an appreciation of the self, but also of the human condition. It is evident in psychologist, spiritual leaders, and philosophers. These young adults may be shy. They are very aware of their own feelings and are self-motivated.
This is the second one I learned about, obviously because it goes in direct contrast to interpersonal intelligence. To some degree for a long time I thought that I had this kind of intelligence, but I realized that there is so much about the human condition I do not know, although I have begun to understand a lot about the frailty of humans, which focuses on how predictable a person’s behaviour is based on the info you have provided and how easy it is to be misunderstood. Other factors include making the wrong choices, in the wrong places, at the wrong times with the wrong people. I have also learned about the counter-intuitive aspect of life which suggests that in most cases, not all, you are to do the opposite of what the seemingly common-sense thing to do is in order to achieve the positive result. I may write about these in future posts.
9. Spatial Intelligence (“Picture Smart”). This is the ability to think in three dimensions. Core capacities include mental imagery, spatial reasoning, image manipulation, graphic and artistic skills, and an active imagination. Sailors, pilots, sculptors, painters, and architects all exhibit spatial intelligence. Young adults with this kind of intelligence may be fascinated with mazes or jigsaw puzzles, or spend free time drawing or daydreaming.
Of course visual learners to a certain extent have this. There may not always be a direct correlation between spatial intelligence and visual learning. I have a friend who has linguistic intelligence and can draw. It is actually how she processes information, she needs to draw it out. Get it? In contrast I have another friend who also has linguistic intelligence but cannot draw. Both are novelists and one is an infrequent blogger.
The Other Kinds Of Intelligences
1. Emotional Intelligence. This is the ability to identify, assess, and control the emotions of oneself, of others, and of groups. It actually comes in four parts:
a) Perceiving Emotions: The first step in understanding emotions is to accurately perceive them. In many cases, this might involve understanding nonverbal signals such as body language and facial expressions.
Many people do not know that I focus more on body language than anything else. It is almost always easy for me to see how a person feels.
b) Reasoning With Emotions: The next step involves using emotions to promote thinking and cognitive activity. Emotions help prioritize what we pay attention and react to; we respond emotionally to things that garner our attention.
c) Understanding Emotions: The emotions that we perceive can carry a wide variety of meanings. If someone is expressing angry emotions, the observer must interpret the cause of their anger and what it might mean. For example, if your boss is acting angry, it might mean that he is dissatisfied with your work; or it could be because he got a speeding ticket on his way to work that morning or that he’s been fighting with his wife.
Anger can be very difficult to deal with because it is so easy to misinterpret. I do know that anger does not get aroused by the immediate situation. A similar experience in one way or another, a long time before, would trigger the emotion at the present moment. In other words anger lays dormant until someone or something unleashes it. The person has to deal either with the past or come up with countermeasures for the person or situation that springs it up, in order to gain self-control in this area. More so if they are short-tempered.
d) Managing Emotions: The ability to manage emotions effectively is a key part of emotional intelligence. Regulating emotions, responding appropriately and responding to the emotions of others are all important aspect of emotional management.
2) Creative Intelligence. This is the vital dimension for the capacity of knowing and learning. The creative is unconventional, anarchic, flexible and open. It is fostered through understanding how the creative process works in human beings and how to apply it. Human creativity is activated through processes of intention and attention. When we are aware of these processes, we can learn how to direct them into creative flow ( a state in which you are so involved in an activity that nothing else seems to matter, like being in the zone).
At its core, creativity is all about knowing what is meaningful to people. Successful mining of meaningful knowledge reveals important patterns and shows you possible paths to the new. It is all about connecting the dots, for example, connect ‘looking for friends’, ‘sharing’ and ‘social media’ and you get Facebook, and connect ‘cheap’, ‘shoes’ and ‘social media’, you get Zappos.
The other thing is frame. A frame basically means, how you interpret the world and make sense of it. We construct a frame for a given scenario by applying meaning and understanding to what we see. This is a powerful tool for innovation, because understanding how we frame things also enables us to re-frame that narrative, or to change how we see and interpret something. This ability lies at the very core of creativity.
Symtoms of creativity.
When individuals do not understand why they have certain difficulties in their lives; and even those who are aware of their creativity often experience it, alternately, as a gift and a burden.
Having luminous insights, a prolific flow of ideas and the ability to make meaningful connections.
The experience of feeling overwhelmed by numerous ideas and projects, the sensory trials and emotional pains that accompany acute sensitivity, and the sense of feeling ‘different,’ than most others.
How to identify your creative intelligence
a) You would recognize the relationship with your own creative process as the No 1 relationship in your life, the one that defines all the others.
b) You would allow yourself to observe and express the truth of your unique character and experience
c) You would be awake to life through seven senses (sight, hearing, taste, touch, smell, overall perception and intuition).
d) You would know how to summon stillness, awareness and presence and do so regularly.
e) You would see that you are not separate from the rest of creative life, that the same process that creates one thing creates all things.
f) You would allow challenging relationships and events in your life to teach you what you need to know.
g) You would understand that creative intelligence is not acquired so much as accessed. It is alway there for us though we are not always there for it.
h) You would feel confident of your ability to create because you would know how to tune into your creative potential.
How to increase creative intelligence
A good first step is to stop and reflect on what you are good at. Most of us aren’t aware of our own capabilities and even when we are, we don’t see how to connect the skills from one area to another. For instance, you might be great at reading body language, or organizing family trips; by framing these skills differently, you can utilize them in countless creative ways.
Another way to become more aware of your creative potential is to start keeping a portfolio. It might begin as a journal containing your ideas, notes, sketches and work. Over time, it will show the many ‘dots’ you’ve collected over time, and this will encourage you to think about connecting some of them.
3) Academic Intelligence. This is having cognitive abilities that are regarded as being highly imperative to achieve academic success. It refers to the skills that typify our examinations of general intelligence: math reasoning and language among them. It is actually used to find out what one’s I.Q is. These people have a high level of general knowledge or tend to know more things about a subject at hand than the info provided by an average or below average person. It is closely related to Logical-Mathematical Intelligence but not completely. One can easily grasp the concept of any subject and apply it fairly quickly but not tackle all situations or challenges from a reasoning and numbering perspective.
4) Financial Intelligence. is the knowledge and skills gained from understanding finance and accounting principles in the business world. Although a fairly new term, financial intelligence has its roots in organizational development research, mostly in the field of employee participation. There are four areas of understanding that make up financial intelligence:
Understanding the foundation. Financial intelligence requires an understanding of the basics of financial measurement including the income statement, the balance sheet, and the cash flow statement. It also requires knowing the difference between cash and profit and why a balance sheet balances.
Understanding the art. Finance and accounting are an art as well as a science. The two disciplines must try to quantify what can’t always be quantified, and so must rely on rules, estimates, and assumptions. Financial intelligence ensures people are able to identify where the artful aspects of finance have been applied to the numbers, and know how applying them differently might lead to different conclusions.
Understanding analysis. Financial intelligence includes the ability to analyze the numbers in greater depth. This includes being able to calculate profitability, leverage, liquidity and efficiency ratios and understanding the meaning of the results. Conducting ROI (Return On Investment) analysis and interpreting the results are also part of financial intelligence.
Understanding the big picture. Financial intelligence also means being able to understand a business’s financial results in context – that is, within the framework of the big picture. Factors such as the economy, the competitive environment, regulations and changing customer needs and expectations as well as new technologies all affect how the numbers are interpreted.
It is very sad that classes related to accounting and business in schools are the only ones that best prepare students for the world outside school. It needs to be put in the education system that all syllabi must have some form of financial education in it, especially high school and college students.
5) Qualitative Intelligence. This is an area of research within Artificial Intelligence (AI) that automates reasoning about continuous aspects of the physical world, such as space, time, and quantity, for the purpose of problem solving and planning. Numerical values are avoided and qualitative values are used instead (e.g., high, low, zero, rising, falling, etc.). Qualitative reasoning creates non-numerical descriptions of physical systems and their behavior. An example is observing pouring rain and the steadily rising water level of a river, which is sufficient information to take action against possible flooding without knowing the exact water level, the rate of change, or the time the river might flood.
6) Quantitative Intelligence. This is the breadth and depth of a person’s quantitative or numerical knowledge. Gq is largely acquired through the investment of other abilities primarily during formal educational experiences. Gq represents an individual’s store of acquired mathematical knowledge. It is safe to say that someone with mathematical knowledge also has quantitative intelligence.
I realize that the beauty of God’s creation can be further appreciated after understanding how everyone operates at their best, particularly when it comes to working together. To truly increase your intelligence I believe acquiring at least one or more of another kind of intelligence in addition to the one you already have will help in that regard. The most of effective way to do that is by finding out which one goes together with the one you have. Spatial intelligence can link well with Creative intelligence and so does Linguistic Intelligence since they are all in the art department. In part 2 I will talk about how understanding our learning styles plays a part in knowing we are. At the end of the day, it does make a big difference in how we value ourselves when we know each other’s intelligences. They must never be limited to only Logic-Mathematical Intelligence.
The Time Difference
First there are 2 Greek words for time, Chronos and Kairos. Chronos is the sequential or chronological time. The clock that passes as the earth continues to spin on its axis. Then Kairos is more a time lapse, a moment of indeterminate time where everything happens. It’s like an opportune time, seasonal, in the sense that events occur in your life in different patterns and moments.
To everything there is a season, and a time for every matter or purpose under heaven.
A time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to pluck up what is planted,
A time to kill and a time to heal, a time to break down and a time to build up,
A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,
A time to cast away stones and a time to gather stones together, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
A time to get and a time to lose, a time to keep and a time to cast away,
A time to rend and a time to sew, a time to keep silence and a time to speak,
A time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.
All this is the kairos time because it speaks of moments in time. In other words a moment to be born and a moment to die. Those moments will transpire as chronos, the chronological time, takes place. As you begin to think about events you plan and attend, also think about how each small moment in your life affects you as it leads up to that event. One more thing before I discuss some expressions.
I returned and saw under the sun that the race is not to the swift nor the battle to the strong, neither is bread to the wise nor riches to men of intelligence and understanding nor favor to men of skill; but time and chance happen to them all.
Another version says, “By being at the right place at the right time.”
Expressions about time
“Buy me some time” This one is often used in movies in situations where the enemy may need to be distracted so that the hero and his team can infiltrate the premises and achieve the main goal, or at least the means to the main goal. People use it today as if it’s a commodity or product. Can anyone sell time?
The thing I don’t get is, people some times or often waste time because they don’t take time to carefully think about and plan how they are going to spend their time. This means they don’t invest time in the small things so that they won’t have to worry about losing time through being unable to control their emotions, which puts them in a position where they may not be able to get that time back, especially when it matters most.
The other thing is people spend too much time doing trivial things that they think are important; are unable to make time (or make up for it) for the really important things (friends and family); burn themselves out and end up having no time for the especially important things (meetings, talent shows, time out with friends and the intimate relationships and so on).
My favourite one, “I don’t have the time,” or “When I have the time.” Some of these expressions really are funny. It is not as if there is ever going to be a moment where time will not exist for anyone. The people who use those particularly phrases correctly say, “I don’t have time for that.” Of course some would go on to add, “Right now.” I must confess, I very often have the habit of saying that I don’t have time for that, this would usually be because I refuse to do something or prefer not to do it.
Now the show that popularised the phrase, “Ain’t nobody got time for that,” Sweet Brown, really got my friend saying that a lot. Anyone who has seen that will react that way the very second I mention that I don’t have time for that. That is the key point to mention, “Time for something.” It is completely different to simply stating that you don’t have time.
This next one is so true in the TV And Film industry, “Time is money.” When we say that we mean it in a very literal sense. The more time you waste the more money you waste, because it means whatever could not be done has to be either be redone, or the particular items, props, vehicles and so on used, need to be purchased again. Not to mention the production costs for rehiring the room, the length of the scene and so on.
People use it (the expression) nowadays either to make a point (such as a lecture against asking for money to argue for working for it) or to hurry someone up.
Here’s one, “I need to kill time.” Now that I think about it, it is actually quite funny if you look at it from literal perspective. Doing things that will help you pass the time should be useful for a time. Now there is one thing I do not really agree with that much:
Time heals all wounds
That simply is not true, at least, I do not think so. Some relationship break ups can be very hard, and it can definitely take some years to get over someone or recover from the break up. Those who have been verbally and sexually abused-whether as children or adults-have a really difficult time dealing with both the thought and reality of the experience. The only kind of wounds time can heal are physical ones.
Some awkward ones
I’m running short on time. Time to confess. How often have you said this?
Living on borrowed time. Meaning to live beyond your life expectancy. How many times have you heard this being said? How many people do you know can relate to this?
Anyone who has been in a situation where they survived when they otherwise would not have, had it not been for the miracle of God, can relate to this.
I’m pressed for time. I used to say this a lot. More often than not it was to make myself appear busy so that the task that someone wanted me to do, that I did not want to do, would be less important simply because I would not have time for it. There were more times where that was genuine than those that were not.
Let’s split the time. I said this a lot when it came to group activities where some individuals had more time to do a certain activity than others.
Find the time. Something quite a big majority of people have a hard time doing. All they have to do is look for it in their schedule or sacrifice time from something else. I know it is not easy, but it can be done. Interesting enough, though, you can’t find what you already have.
At the end of the day life is short:
Yet you do not know [the least thing] about what may happen tomorrow. What is the nature of your life? You are [really] but a wisp of vapor (a puff of smoke, a mist) that is visible for a little while and then disappears [into thin air]
As for man, his days are as grass; as a flower of the field, so he flourishes.
For the wind passes over it and it is gone, and its place shall know it no more
Though we may not be able to make up for lost time, we can make the most of the time that we have now.
For it is up to us to decide what to do with the time that is given to us, Gandalf the Grey: Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring.
As every second passes we grow to realize that we will never get it back and I believe it starts with our words because it all comes from the heart. If we can guard our heart with all vigilance, above all that we guard, for out of it springs the issues of life (Proverbs 4:23), then I believe we have lived the life, that at the foundation and heart of every human’s existence, that is the life meant to be lived.
We grow in time, we learn in time, we flow with time and wait in time. When time is lost for one thing, we find it in another. Time is often traded for an experience. Which would you choose: A walk in the park with your beautiful/handsome friend or a free whole day pass in a theme park where you can have the time of your life?
Most things, if not everything, in time happen for a reason. Now that reason may not be easily understood at the current moment in time, however, there are some things that are meant to be known and revealed in due time. Therefore it is important to know the contrary effect of time. Where there is light, there are always shadows. Where there is victor, the defeated also exist. A desire for peace (in one area) can give rise to war (in another). Hatred (towards something) is born in order to protect love (for something else). Time unveils these things as it goes by, and so all we can do is be prepared for them when they come. Of course our choices affect how these things come to be. All time does is give us the result of the choices we make. If we are disappointed with the outcome of what has taken place, we have to look back and locate the source of the choice made.
These are things that are in our control. The other things such as natural disasters, are beyond our control. All the crime in the world, the riots, the decisions politicians make at the expense of the citizens they lead, are all things that time allows us to understand when the right one comes. Our responsibility-in order to change that which we do not like-is to take the time to understand why the events have taken place the way they have up to a point where we can agree that there is nothing more that can be understood, then, use our own personal time to the best of our abilities to improve ourselves so that we can lead a life that improves others. I am certain that the meaning of life lies in those two things.
Time is the best teacher
Time is the school in which we learn, time is the fire in which we burn.
Use your time wisely
This time, like all times, is a very good one, if we but know what to do with it.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Check your priorities
If you want to make good use of your time, you’ve got to know what’s most important and then give it all you’ve got.
Small things matter
You’re writing the story of your life one moment at a time.
Doc Childre and Howard Martin
Do only a few things
One cannot manage too many affairs: like pumpkins in the water, one pops up while you try to hold down the other.
Focus on the present
It’s how we spend our time here and now, that really matters. If you are fed up with the way you have come to interact with time, change it.
Lost time gone forever
One thing you can’t recycle is wasted time.
The importance of time
Until you value yourself, you will not value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.
M. Scott Peck
A wise person does at once, what a fool does at last. Both do the same thing; only at different times.
Don’t excuse, you are in control
In truth, people can generally make time for what they choose to do; it is not really the time but the will that is lacking.
Sir John Lubbock
The great dividing line between success and failure can be expressed in five words: “I did not have time.”
Disclaimer: This post contains some images that are bit graphic but not the point of vileness. The content contains slightly more explicit material than I would normally put together. It is generally a PG13 kind of post. Now because of the world we live in, I state things just as it is. Some of it maybe offensive but that is to illustrate what the world thinks of and is doing to Christians. I do this in order to drive the point home effectively. Being euphemistic dilutes the impact that the content is supposed to give. How else can you be real in a world like this?
Now I am not saying that these are the actual reasons, but rather some possibilities as to why it is that out of all things in this world to clean, the mind is the most difficult.
I remember in my film shoot last year (during Nov-Dec 2013) our main character, who was a female lead together with our male lead because she played the wife, often wore short dresses and skirts. It was set in the ’70s through to the early 2000s. The thing that I found interesting about that was the fact that I knew that our actress was not the kind of person who normally wore such clothes. In fact I would go on further to say that if she never could, she never would!
I mentioned my observation to our supporting character who played the daughter in the story. This was on a day when she was not on set. When I said, “I like how she is putting on mostly dresses and skirts because I know she would not normally have them on. She looks great in them,” she replies, “Because their short!”
I knew that she was thinking what she thought I was thinking, but it was far from it. If anything she is the one who put the unnecessary thought in my head. I responded by saying, “The mind is the hardest thing to clean.”
Some observations based on possible conclusions people may come up with
I have not actually done a survey but this what I believe people would think.
1) Some blame it on sin- Gen 6:5
The Lord saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every imagination and intention of all human thinking was only evil continually
True that we are generally born into sinful nature and therefore because of our fallen state we would naturally be drawn towards fleshly thoughts and desires. However, even without the forgiveness of sin, moral and ethical living can still be taught to an individual, most of which will be principles from the Bible except those pertaining to self-development and improvement. Through that, one can, as much as possible, control unclean thoughts and develop the habit of right thinking.
2) Some blame it on the corrupt world- 1 John 2:16
For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh [craving for sensual gratification] and the lust of the eyes [greedy longings of the mind] and the pride of life [assurance in one’s own resources or in the stability of earthly things]—these do not come from the Father but are from the world [itself]
Now I do agree that most things, if not everything the world offers is instantaneously gratifying and self-fulfilling. Furthermore it is about taking control of one’s own destiny the idea that the most important thing above all is to do whatever you like. It is sad that most wars arise as a result of this unquenchable thirst and desire for more accompanied by a territorial mindset. In other words, “What’s mine is mine and what’s yours is mine.”
To remedy this one’s mind must be filled with life lessons on being interdependent and good morals (lessons about good behaviour) and ethics (the good behaviour being practiced).
3) Some blame it on themselves- Jeremiah 17:9-10
The heart is deceitful above all things, and it is exceedingly perverse and corrupt and severely, mortally sick! Who can know it [perceive, understand, be acquainted with his own heart and mind]?
I the Lord search the mind, I try the heart, even to give to every man according to his ways, according to the fruit of his doings
This one is very closely linked to the first one. It is arguable that your background and “mentors” so-to-speak have a huge effect on your worldview and life in general. One may justify your actions by saying that you don’t know any better. However that does not make it excusable, you still have to face the consequences of your choice. Now there is one thing even in situations like that, I believe serve as saving aid for the individual: The Conscience. Deep down inside, because everyone gets taught good principles of earthly living at some point early on in their life, though they may be deceived by some people, feeling bad about certain actions taken at first is a starting point for a turn-around and acceptance for proper living. One needs not blame their status, background, sphere of influence (people around you that impact you and you impact), or anything else for the choices they make.
4) Some blame it on others- Matther 7:3-5
Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye
Yes some would love the comfort of knowing that the choice they made was highly influenced by someone else and therefore the responsibility rests on someone else’s shoulders instead of their own. The teacher, the friends, girl/boyfriends, wives/husbands, boss, coworker, siblings and worst of all the parents. I have noticed especially from a lot of movies (meet the parents, meet the fockers, little fockers, definitely-maybe, cheaper by the dozen among others) and songs and/or music videos (Cleaning out my Closet-Eminem, Words are weapons D-12, If You Seek Amy-Britney Spears) that if not directly then indirectly or subliminally cause youth mostly to eventually rebel against their parents. Perhaps peer-pressure, wanting to fit in, dangerous board games or innocent card games with twisted rules that may have a truth or dare feel to it, heavily influence young minds. The emotive feel of music and movies is not be underestimated. I stress parents because of the greatest commandment relating to humankind:
Regard (treat with honor, due obedience, and courtesy) your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land the Lord your God gives you. Exodus 20:12
5) Some blame it on circumstances- Not just the ones relating to background or the past but even the current ones and the future. How do you think pessimists become that way? Life does not treat everyone fairly and neither does everyone have the privilege of being taught how to overcome tough situations with a clear mind, focusing on the main goal and not the immediate obstacle. Being shaped by negative content and material plays a huge role in an individual’s life, as does being shaped by people.
6) Some blame it on work, politics and schools- those three make up the core aspects of any nation: business, government and education. It’s always the system’s fault! The truth is we cannot do anything about the things that happen to us, but we do have a say and choice on how it affects us. Now that is the key. Working with or for companies that do not have just dealings or being ruled by unfair politicians and national leaders, or being mistreated, cheated, or deceived by either the school or friends or anyone in any a learning environment, is in an unfortunate situation. Are such experiences (meant) to change your worldview? Are they to affect how you see and do life? Do they impact who you are and who you want to be?
These are things worth thinking about.
Let’s look at Mark 7:21-23
For from within, [that is] out of the hearts of men, come base and wicked thoughts, sexual immorality, stealing, murder, adultery,
Coveting (a greedy desire to have more wealth), dangerous and destructive wickedness, deceit; unrestrained (indecent) conduct; an evil eye (envy), slander (evil speaking, malicious misrepresentation, abusiveness), pride the sin of an uplifted heart against God and man), foolishness (folly, lack of sense, recklessness, thoughtlessness).
All these evil [purposes and desires] come from within, and they make the man unclean and render him unhallowed.
The solution to it all
Now that we know or at least have any idea where the unclean mind comes from, the most important thing to do would be to:
Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard, for out of it flow the springs of life. Proverbs 4:23
When we do this it becomes easier when we are told:
Don’t copy the behaviour and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect Romans 12:2
Something interesting to think about
I have observed that self-control is the most important thing that humankind has to deal with. The greatest thing given to all mankind was the freedom of choice. Second to that is the easiest and hardest way to live life: self-control.
I am convinced that if humankind has self-control in these three areas of life then they cannot be tempted at all.
1) Self-control with words. Proverbs 18:21
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it [for death or life]
For we all often stumble and fall and offend in many things. And if anyone does not offend in speech [never says the wrong things], he is a fully developed character and a perfect man, able to control his whole body and to curb his entire nature.
2) Self-control with food.
For the drunkard and the glutton shall come to poverty, and drowsiness shall clothe a man with rags
1 Corinthians 6:13
Food [is intended] for the stomach and the stomach for food, but God will finally end [the functions of] both and bring them to nothing. The body is not intended for sexual immorality, but [is intended] for the Lord, and the Lord [is intended] for the body [to save, sanctify, and raise it again].
3) Self-control with sex. Now because the Bible deals specifically with one aspect of sex, we should look deeper into that and learn more about what it truly entails: Sexual Immorality.
What is sexual immorality?
The definition of immoral is deliberately
violating accepted principles of right and wrong.
The sexually immoral includes: prostitution,
pornography, having sex outside of marriage,
homosexuality, and adultery.
It seems as though sexual immorality comes in different ways. We will take a look at each of these:
Adultery: voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not their spouse.
You shall not commit adultery. Exodus 20:14
If there is a man who commits adultery with another man’s wife, one who commits adultery with his friend’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. Leviticus 20:10
Fornication: sexual intercourse between people not married to each other.
Pop culture: freedom to have sexual intercourse with anyone not married regardless of number, gender and age in order to gain and maintain a high social status.
Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4
According to the cited biblical verse, those who commit adultery defile through this their future marriage and the marriage bed, that is their sexual relation. No one will be able to rejoice of a defiled sexual relation, but it will transform his/her future wife or husband in an unguilty victim.
Masturbation: stimulate one’s genitals with one’s hand for sexual pleasure.
2) stimulate the genitals of (someone) to give them sexual pleasure.
Mutual masturbation: is a sexual act where two or more people stimulate themselves or one another sexually, usually with the hands.
Beloved, I urge you as sojourners and exiles to abstain from the passions of the flesh, which wage war against your soul. 1 Peter 2:11
Prostitution: the practice or occupation of engaging in sexual activity with someone for payment.
“None of the daughters of Israel shall be a cult prostitute, and none of the sons of Israel shall be a cult prostitute. You shall not bring the fee of a prostitute or the wages of a dog into the house of the Lord your God in payment for any vow, for both of these are an abomination to the Lord your God.” Deuteronomy 23:17-18
Pornography: printed or visual material containing the explicit description or display of sexual organs or activity, intended to stimulate sexual excitement.
There are two kinds of pornography:
Softcore pornography: generally contains nudity or partial nudity in sexually suggestive situations, but not explicit sexual activity, sexual penetration or “extreme” fetishism (sexual arousal a person receives from a physical object, or from a specific situation).
Hardcore pornography: Hardcore pornography contains graphic sexual activity and visible penetration.
I would like to think it counts as well when visible penetration is obvious even when the genitals are not in the frame.
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body 1 Corinthians 6:18
Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality. Galatians 5:19
This practice is an aberrant (departing from an accepted standard) sexual practice.
This world becomes more and more evil and it becomes harder to believe that things will get any better. The world makes the things of great disgust seem normal and even calls it, “untraditional sexual orientation,” but God calls it, “an abomination,” and “defiled.”
None of you shall approach any blood relative of his to uncover nakedness; I am the LORD. Leviticus 18:6
In continuation, the text defines clearly who are considered blood relatives, with which the marriage is banned. These are the parents, the step parents, the sister, the brother, the nephew, the niece, the aunt, the sister of the brother, the aunt from the uncle, the daughter-in-law, etc. All these sexual relations are incest. After that, the list continues with other things that are defined as perversions:
You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination. Also you shall not have intercourse with any animal to be defiled with it, nor shall any woman stand before an animal to mate with it; it is a perversion. Do not defile yourselves by any of these things; for by all these the nations which I am casting out before you have become defiled. Leveticus 18:22–24
The sexually immoral, men who practice homosexuality, enslavers, liars, perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound doctrine. 1 Timothy 1:10
Immorality of the mind
What does immorality of the mind mean? Lord Jesus defines it in this way:
But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:28
Self-control in these three areas, even in a corrupt world like this one, will help humankind get closer to freedom from mind abuse. I leave you with this:
For no temptation (no trial regarded as enticing to sin), [no matter how it comes or where it leads] has overtaken you and laid hold on you that is not common to man [that is, no temptation or trial has come to you that is beyond human resistance and that is not adjusted and adapted and belonging to human experience, and such as man can bear]. But God is faithful [to His Word and to His compassionate nature], and He [can be trusted] not to let you be tempted and tried and assayed beyond your ability and strength of resistance and power to endure, but with the temptation He will [always] also provide the way out (the means of escape to a landing place), that you may be capable and strong and powerful to bear up under it patiently. 1 Corinthians 10:13
“Those who restrain desire do so because theirs is weak enough to be restrained.” William Blake